93 thoughts on “The annual post about why I hate the term mommyblog”

1. I’ve never liked the term “Mommy.” I’ve gone by “Momma” for the last 3+ years, and some probably don’t like the sound of that, either. I love it. In my head, it’s totally different than Mommy. Hearing my daughter call me that makes my heart smile. Hearing my hubby call me that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.Maybe I’m a Mommablogger. I do blog about myself quite a bit. 😉I’ve almost always been more than my title (regardless of what it is at the time), so I tend to take them with a grain of salt anyway.Have a great time at the conference!~Momma, The Casual Perfectionist

2. I don’t hate the word itself, but I do hate all that it implies in the blogging world. At BlogHer last year, I was hesitant to introduce myself and a “mommyblogger” for fear I wouldn’t be taken seriously. I write mostly about my kids and my experiences as a mother. If that makes me a mommyblogger, so be it.

3. From now on, I am calling myself a Megblogger!

4. Um ya, not a fan. But then again, I tend to be a word snob. I don’t like hubby, lol, OMG, vlog….not even a big lover of the word blog. And when you hear Mommy all day long, sometimes even that word goes to my crap word list.So, I’d have to agree.I’m a writer. Good enough for me!

5. hate.

6. Reading about the Mommyblogger title – mostly on your site – I got to thinking. “Mommy” (or Momma or Mom or Mother) is not a phrase that used in serious discussion. So it seems hard to take someone known as a Mommyblogger seriously.That’s just my two cents worth-Mary (Momma and Blogger and a few other things)

7. I almost wish I had something as simple as “mommyblog”to hang my hat on. In Alltop.com, I am a “life” blogger. What does THAT mean? I guess “middle-aged single, childless, cranky, wine-swilling blogger” is a bit much to say.

8. So, can we invent a new word and promote it? It took a long time to sell “Ms.” but it is accepted now. Could we have a mommyblogger conference to vote on a new term? “Parenting blogger” is not catchy enough–but “mom-blogger” might work. If we all become “mother-bloggers” that would at least make us sound bad-ass.

9. I don’t even let my kids call me mommy. I am NOT a mommy blogger. I’m barely a parenting blogger. I don’t think of you as one, either. I’m sticking with Diarist. For now, at least. 🙂

10. I HATEHATEHATE the term mommyblogger. It just feels… belittling in some way that is hard to name. It makes me feel like my blog should have pictures of cutesy kittens or something and that people don’t consider the content as seriously when it comes under that umbrella.but maybe that’s because I consider myself a writer first and then a mother in terms of blog content – I had that journal years before I got pregnant and my son is one of the range of subjects there.Or maybe it’s because I don’t love my darling preshus enough.

11. oh,i don't like “mommyblogger” , even though it is who i am, really. i am a mum, & i am proud of it, but, it just sounds so silly,so little,doesn't it? very “aww, look, a woman who can use a computer” to me. I love the sanctimommy post, even though i am one when i see people hitting their children,because that's just wrong. I used to be one when it comes to keeping children on a leash (safety harness i believe they are called?) but now that i have children i understand that you do what you have to to keep your child safe. I still would never use one, but i don't roll my eyes anymore. We are mostly tv free, but i don't mind spending a day in bed watching mary poppins.as long as my children are happy, i am happy.

12. I’m willing to concede to momblogger when I must, but the diminutive “mommy” really strikes me as limiting, pigeonholing me into that “mom of young children, wipes noses for a living” box, when that is actually quite far from my reality. (Well ok, I do wipe noses on occasion, but it hardly pays the bills.)My blog is so eclectic that I’ve had a lot of trouble categorizing myself, and finally decided that since I’m not looking to actively market myself or make money off of it that I just don’t have to. *sticks out tongue and places fingers in ears*On any given day, a visitor to my blog might find an art photo, a story about my children, offloading of my own angst, a travelogue, a piece of fiction, or something else entirely. It is what it is. A reflection of me, and while I love my kids more than life itself I’m a hell of a lot more than “just a mommy”.

13. Hate it. I’ve use it for lack of a better, more catchy, term, but I hate it.

14. I think it boils down to who owns the conversation. And the answer is: Whoever creates the language (e.g.,’clean coal,’ for crying out loud!). We can take back the language, creating new words for our experiences (that’ll never happen, trust me, because too many mothers with children won’t/can’t be bothered to speak en masse), or do what the gays have done, and made words like ‘queer’ part of a powerful, pridefulmovement.Remember what Gloria Steinem said when someone told her that she didn’t look 50: “This is what 50 looks like!”You have nothing to feel ashamed about. This is what a mommie or a mother or a momma looks like. Suck it up, corporate America (which isn’t doing all too well these days either. Who wants to work for AIG?)

15. Personally I can not stand when I am referred to by “mommy” in any forum except by my children. Drives me nuts to receive some group email from another parent in my childs preschool addressing me as mommy. To quote an artice I read recently “unless I have wiped your butt or paid you a dollar to try an avocado, don’t call me mommy!”

16. I think you nailed it when you mentioned talking to the dark suits. Because let’s face it, no matter how “far we’ve come,” in a situation like that there will be those who immediately tune out because of the phraseology. Which is lame. My issue is the box in which the term places me. Yes, I am a Mom. That doesn’t mean I have less to offer then the next person because I’m thinking about my kids 24-7. Quite the contrary. Do I blog about my kids? Sure do. Do I also blog about myself and my own life? You betcha. I didn’t start my blog to have it be a Mommyblog, or any other specific blog. I just wanted to write about what I was thinking. Sorry for the novella comment!

17. It doesn’t bother me too terribly much, though I think I am much more likely to say “momblogger” than “mommy.” I agree, the extra “-my” somehow diminishes it, cutie-fies it in an annoying way. Must come up with something better…

18. I hate the term stepmommyblogger. Because it makes the blogger sound even less important than Mommyblogger.

19. I would much rather be called a parenting blogger than a mommy blogger! Let’s start the campaign now!

20. I hate it. My kids don’t call me Mommy, why should anyone else?I blog about life, anyway — not just about my kids. I’m just a blogger, thank you very much.

21. I’m not a fan of it though I’m sure I’m pigeonholed as one. I much prefer the term life blogger. I may write about my kid on occasion but that doesn’t mean that’s all there is to me. Being a mom doesn’t define me, or my blog.

22. With blogging, as with life, people are only comfortable with something if they can cram it into a little box and label it. I like to think I defy labels. Then again, I like to think I’m still a size 6. I think I escaped the term “Mommyblogger” only because my children were already past the age of calling me “Mommy” when I started blogging.

23. You know I totally agree with you on this. Does Kos have kids? If he does, would they call him a “daddy blogger?” No.Also, just let me know where I sign up for that massage with Clive Owen. Mmmm.

24. Hate it. I might BE a Mom, but that is not ALL I am. Nor is it all I write about.

25. If we can pick any title, I would like to be called Chief Executive Life Blogger. I blog about my life without the huge bonuses.

26. Meh, I’m okay with the label. My content my actually improve if I started writing about you wonderful ladies. As long as they lump me with awesome women like you, I don’t care what they call us.

27. I prefer mom blogger but mommy blogger doesn’t bother me for the most part. (Like I always say…I’ve been called worse!)The only time that the term mommy blogger annoys me is when someone is writing something negative about mom bloggers and puts the word in quotes – “mommy” bloggers. That’s condescending to me.

28. Well unfortunately I think the horse has left the barn and it is going to be damn difficult to get it back in. However, parenting blog or family blog is probably more accurate to describe the blog and not lose the idea that children are part of the story. And include the dads writing these stories as well.As opposed to a personal or lifestyle blog, which doesn't imply kids. However, even if we managed to effect that linguistic shift, I still expect that moms who blog abut their families will still be referred to as mom (or mommy) bloggers. Without categories in which to lump us all, DEMOGRAPHICS, marketing & ad industries would be lost. And completely off topic the word verification wants me to write “dinchead” I sense something prophetic in that.

29. Oh, I forgot the one thing I wanted to say…oy.The only problem I have with the the label is that it seems to me to imply that we are of one mind. The internets see us as one big brain. That part I don’t like. Not all bloggers labeled as MommyBloggers hold the same opinion on things like politics or nutrition or that darn Motrin scandal.I don’t think Tech Bloggers or Food Bloggers would ever be assumed in such a way.

30. I like “momblogger” better than “mommyblogger.” Of course, I am neither, but when I refer to you moms who blog, I tend to use the former.

31. I tend to refer to myself as a mom blogger, but like many, write about more than my family.I am going to start referring to myself as part of the Mom-Borg Collective to ironically “own” that term.

32. I don’t have a problem with mom blogger, but mommyblogger I can’t live with. Mommy sounds so frilly, which clearly I am not.

33. Thank You! I have been mulling this topic around in my head for a while… it was really brought to the fore front recently at Mom 2.0 Summit. I am a mom… and a wife and a sister and a friend and a tech geek and a marketer and an artist and a social media kool-aid drinker and a… you get the idea. Why would I only be a mommy blogger?

34. Kim, awesome!And for those not on the twitter 24/7 or following sxsw this week, see: < HREF="http://twitter.com/KimMoldofsky/status/1337935479" REL="nofollow">Mom Borg Collective here<>

35. As usual, you’re right. We do need some term though, because the power of the community is so huge that it does need some kind of identifier. Even across topic lines there is a reason women choose to id themselves as moms (it is a right honorable title after all.) Susan is right about unringing the bell, too.At least it’s a good problem to have; the power of the community is now assumed. Right?

36. I am a beatblogger and there is an article that says so!So I am a beatblogger who writes about the following (including but not limited to):parentingbeing a womancurrent eventspoliticshealth & environmentI think most of us are beatbloggers, some more focused than others on parenting and/or life as a person who happens to also be parent.What marketers really need to do is consider us beatbloggers and know our beat. Which, despite our parenthood status, may or may not include parenting.As for calling your panel mommyblogging? Unless your topic is specifically titled Mommyblogging, then it is highly unprofessional.You need to be Liz, PR professional, speaking about bloggers who focus on parenting topics.The same way they'd do for a magazine.I don't hate mommyblog until it is used oppressively, unprofessionally, or patronizingly to limit or narrow our scope.In other words, not in theory but usually. 😉

37. Cynthia that’s a beautifully optimistic way of looking at it. I always learn something from you.

38. Why not just refer to them/us as Motherbloggers?I’m a mom and I blog. Sometimes I blog about my children, mostly I blog about myself. It’s not insulting to me if someone calls me a “mommyblogger”, as long as they don’t expect me to wipe their ass or anything.

39. I’m thrilled to hear this. My peeve is women referring to themselves and other women as “Mommies.” But then, I’m also a bit weirded out by women whose internet handles are “DeansMommy,” or some such. I have a 7 month old and part of my hesitation on having a kid at all was my discomfort with the “Mommy Role.” I’m not a mommy. I’m a bad ass chick who still likes to put back a couple of drinks, swears like a sailor, and lives for naptime. But I also love my kid to death, so the “Mommy Guilt” that hovers out there for women that don’t fit that mold makes me nutzo.When my kid talks, I also hope she calls me “Momma.” You can be a Hot Momma. Not so much a Hot Mommy. Also, somehow, Momma speaks to me of strength and toughness. Mommy, not so much….

40. I loathe the term Mommyblogger but only because it has such negative connotations surrounding it. It implies that I write about everything to do with being a mommy to children and therefore have little else of value to offer the world. (Because parenting children has no value. Rolls eyes.)I much prefer to describe myself as a HUMOURIST. If it was good enough for Erma Bombeck, it’s good enough for me.When I’m feeling really feisty and feel the need to define my blogging style, I just simply announce I’m the “Dead Kids and Dildo’s” blogger.That generally shuts everyone up.Heh.

41. I tend to go with “lifestyle blogger” but I recently learned that it implies alternative lifestyles.GAH!Whatever. I’ll still use it. I blog about being a mum only about 40% of the time, so I think the above title fits. Mommyblogger (ugh) just doesn’t.

42. I don’t love it … I think the misconception by my friends is that I’m keeping this online diary. Those that have read it always come back and say they didn’t realize it might actually be something they would enjoy reading. I think we are stuck with mommyblogger but what happens when we get older and our kids are gone…. what do they call parents of teens or grandparents that blog?

43. Hmmmm. Certainly something to ponder. I don’t have a problem being called a “mommy” anything. We go through life picking up so many labels, deserved or not. “Mommy” is one I’ve worked hard to achieve. My SweetPea refers to me as “My Mommy” because I call her “My SweetPea” so day to day I hear “good morning My Mommy” or “what are you doing My Mommy”. I think people will always come to the table with preconceived notions about you, regardless of the label you’ve been tagged with. I’ve always seen it as a challenge to prove to them that I’m more than just my label.

44. I didn’t read all of the other comments, so not sure if I am in the minority, and therefore about to make myself look like a huge sap…but…I love being a Mommyblogger. I have longed to be a Mom for a very long time – I had to struggle through two ectopics, surgery, meds, and IVF to be blessed with a child…and dammit I am gonna milk it for all its worth. Call me Mommy, its music to my ears. Lump me in that demographic…hells yea! Its thrilling to be called that, for me. And, right now I am fairly consumed with child rearing – and I am in that sickening phase where my kid farts and I think its adorable…so, it is all I write about. Maybe in a year I will change my mind? But for now…swoon!And, I call my own mom “Mommy” to this day…mostly when I am whining…heh. Am I strange?

45. I can’t pretend to care about the term since I put Mommy in Marketing Mommy. I think mommyblogging as a term stuck because the bulk of mombloggers (at least at first) were “mommies” (i.e. the mothers of young children). And as the mothers of young children, we fretted about mommy stuff: breastfeeding, co-sleeping, potty training, etc. It can be mind-numbing stuff if you’re not in the thick of it, even it it is well-written, touching or funny as shit.There are mombloggers with preteens and teens out there, but they’re in the minority, perhaps because they accord their growing kids more privacy.See you in Las Vegas!

46. Although I refer to myself as a mommy-blogger (not because that describes who I am, or what my content is, since I’m neither a mom nor do I write about moms, except for sometimes because moms are hilarious and alien :}, but because of who most of my readers seem to be) I actual prefer to refer to myself as aPARENTAL PUNDIT.I share opinions and stories in order to share, shape, and cement ideas about how to raise children, and how to raise parents. Parental punditry: without it, in some form or another, we’d all still be beating our children with belts and paddles.

47. I’m perfectly comfortable with the term “parent blogger”. I blog about parenting. No brainer there.But Motherbumper and I were thinking of coining a new term “Batshit Crazy Blogger”. I think it has a nice ring to it.

48. I’m new to all of this and writing mainly to preserve what little is left of my IQ after having my first babe 5 months ago, but…The “problem” (ahem) with us women is that we’re willing to see our commonality as mothers over our differences (writing about food, politics, health, etc)..which lumps us all together into the “mommyblogger” realm simply because we’re able to form a community based one this one shared experience of motherhood and not on a specific blog topic. Frustrating indeed. And not so easy to fix.– Sarah: The Purple Canoe

49. @Katiepie35 that’s a beautiful side of the story. I’m glad that the label has helped you own this new, hard-fought place in your life and find community. It’s a pov I’ve heard before and totally understand. @Sarah1122 I’m not sure if we actually see our commonality above all else. I mean, we may preach it sometimes, but if you look at the momblogger communities that form and these little momblogger ecosystems (reciprocal blog roll mentions, etc) I think we do separate ourselves by topic. I admit I don’t have a whole lot of evangelical republican homeschooling moms on my blogroll. Although I do have a republican or two. And even < HREF="http://fairlyoddmother.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">a homeschooler.<>@Backpackingdad you’re a genius, my friend – love Parental Pundit! Now that’s why you’re a professional critical thinker.

50. I’ve thought about the term over the years, mostly because it seems like so many mothers who blog don’t particularly care for being called a mommyblogger.Personally, I call them parent blogs or family blogs or mom blogs or dad blogs. I don’t think I made a DECISION to do that, it just sort of happened, and I think it was more because I was a non-mother non-blogger referring to blogging parents and I felt a little silly using the term “mommyblogger” out loud in public. I just assume that I’ll do the same when I have this baby. If I felt silly saying “mommyblogger” before, I’m sure that’s not about to change.So you’re a parent blog to me. I hope that’s okay.

51. I don’t think of myself as a mommyblogger. I have a child. And he’s a part of my life. My life about which I tend to blog. But…yeah. I tend to do some stuff besides “mommying” as well.

52. I am a parent, but I don’t ONLY blog about my life as it pertains to parenting, so I think I prefer the term “LifeBlogger.”

53. I don’t like the title, I never have. At the same time though, I’ve never come up with a better category for myself. I don’t really fit in any where else in the blogging world, unless I use that term. Even though I can go weeks between posts about my kids and I don’t post pictures, I don’t really fit anywhere else. I am just me. A crazy writer (I’m not overly fond of the word blogger) who happens to have kids.

54. Love the word mommy and use it to describe my blog about parenting young kids. But mommyblogger makes me squeamish, too. It’s a term used to describe many different types of blogs, most written by mothers, that cover some aspect of parenting. It does seem somewhat derogatory – as if we can all be lumped together because we’re a new category of writers. But mommyblogger is also a contradiction in terms to our social conscious. Isn’t “mommy” supposed to mean loving, caring, little arms wrapped around us, tuck them sweetly into bed at night, warm and fuzzy feelings? Not opinionated, whining, yelling (sometimes) our thoughts to the world online. Maybe it’s just that the terms mommy and blogger make for a strange fit. We’re defining the mommy job in our individual and boisterous voices to the whole world. There’s no easy way to package thousands of female writers who want to discuss this important role.

55. I am a writer. I am a photographer. I am a mother. I put words and pictures on a page that is sent in binary code throughout the world (potentially).And four people read it.I don’t really care what people define that as. I just hope my kids can find it all someday if they want to read it.

56. How about vagina bloggers? We all go that in common too.Do check out the Olympic Gardens with some girlfriends while in Vegas. Upstairs are the male strippers. They’re all soap opera stars and young models. So hot!

57. I don’t personally go by ‘mommy’, preferring ‘mom’ or ‘mama’. But all the same ‘mommyblogger’ doesn’t really bother me. Although, if asked, I will say I have a family blog. I write about my family, and things that interest us. It’s a little less, I don’t know, cutesy. So I feel somewhat better about that.

58. My guess is that it’s one of those words that wasn’t so bad at the beginning but is now being to marginalize (and I mean that lightly — certainly not how Queer, for example, was used to marginalize LGBT folks) moms who happen to blog. Regardless of what they blog about.So then do we decide to take it back and own it, or do we fight to redefine it or possibly change it?Truth is, there are some pretty freaking amazing mommybloggers who have done some pretty freaking amazing things. (Granted, they probably loathe the term too).But if you [collective]’re using it to insult me or put me down, then I’m in some pretty damn good company.And I’ll just be flattered. And go back to writing about stuff that a lot of people seem to be interested in reading.(And I don’t mean “me” personally, but me as in the mommy blogging community in general)

59. I don’t like it when adults call grown women mommy, mama, etc… People do it to pregnant women, especially first-time pregnant women, all the time. I get that they’re trying to be affectionate and congratulatory (“Hey! you’re going to be a MOM!”) but mommy and mama should be reserved for use by children.I like the suggestions of lifeblogger, familyblogger, or parentblogger, even motherblogger or momblogger depending how central children are to the content.But, yeah, horse is out of the barn.

60. I don’t like the term “mommyblogger” for the same reason I don’t like “mommytrack”. Those aren’t one-size-fits-all labels.

61. Doesn’t bother me a bit! I can see how it would bother some moms if used in an annoying way though. I have been guilty of using the term mommy blog, but hopefully not in the way that makes your skin crawl!

62. We prefer “parenting bloggers” as well 🙂Nice post, and this is a great blog, our first time here and we will definitely be back!

63. I’m in marketing myself but I hate being slipped into a demographic box. Was I a soccer mom after my kid quit soccer? Am I a horse blogger because I have a horsey blog? If I complain about people who wear flip flops despite clear evidence they shouldn’t am I a … podiatry blogger?I think there’s a desire to shortcut relationships, to pretend you know someone because you know some basics about them. I wonder, would shakespeare have been a drama blogger?

64. Oh Breathe,We’re all drama bloggers aren’t we.

65. Wouldn’t an interesting topic for this panel in Vegas be just this…the narrowing of marketing companies to “mommy” and therefore our distaste in being grouped as “mommybloggers”. I also cannot stand the term, my reason – it doesn’t define me well enough. I am a mom, but I also am a full time professional businesswoman, wife, head of household – the hubby travels too much to manage our monthly finances, keeper of all family relationships, dog owner, shopper of all things needed to survive, etc. I don’t see any of them any more important than another – although there are several that are more pleasurable to be. And even more ironic, Mom is the most recent addition to that list. I’d love to see a single marketing agency that has figured the complexity of who we women really are, and boy would I buy THAT product!

66. I have no idea what I am…mommyblogger, proffesional blogger, parenting blogger. You see I don’t think my blog has a clear enough focus. I have a 5, 10, and 13…I write about all three, post reviews, do giveaways. I sound like thousands of other bloggers. I feel as tohugh I need a hook to get people to regularly read what I post. So if mommyblogger fits the bill then I will take it. until then I will post, post, post…

67. Totally agree! “Mommy,” Mom, Mama, Ma is only one aspect/persona/role of mine. There’s lots more… entrepreneur, lifestyle manager, lawyer, wife, friend, daughter, sister in law. “Mommyblogger” doesn’t begin to capture it all!

68. I don’t care for Mommy in general unless my kids (or husband speaking to my kids) are saying it. It is generally used by others to be demeaning.Same thing with “mamma”. In Italy strangers will refer to me as “mamma” when speaking directly to me. I makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Especially when older men call me “mamma.” Ick.The mommyblog name doesn’t really bother me though. I guess because so many mommybloggers are such interesting, intelligent, strong women. The connotation for me is far removed from just mommy.

69. I am not a huge fan of the term. Sure I dig being a MOTHER, and have often introduced myself as such in appropriate situations, but I have never, ever introduced myself to anyone as a “Mommy” in real life, so why would I do so on the internet? My son calls me “Mommy” because I AM his “Mommy.” He’s a preschooler. When he says it to me, it’s adorable. When an executive in a suit approaches me thus, not so much.I try to avoid using the term by saying “mothers who blog” or “parents who blog” or “parenting blogger.” Sometimes I use mommyblogger when I’m being ironic (like when I was talking about forcing clueless marketers to learn how to change diapers while answering the phone at a mommyblogger-run conference the other day). Sometimes I use it when I’m in a hurry and in an environment where I’m worried people won’t understand what I mean if I don’t use that term. But I’m really tired of it. These days I spend a lot more time being a political blogger than a parenting blogger. And yet I’m still a “mommyblogger.” Are Jane Yolen, Barbara Kingsolver, and Margaret Atwood “mommywriters” because they happen to have children and may have at some point mentioned them in their writing? I don’t think so. I think this has a lot to do, not just with the idea that women’s work is worth less and that a mother’s work is worth even less than that of a woman without children, but also with the idea that writing on the internet is worth less than writing on a page.

70. I don’t like the term. Blogging is mostly hobby for me, though, so I don’t have a lot of interface professionally with it.If I did, though, I would certainly be conscious (and self-conscious?) about it. I love this comment thread, though.

71. I don’t really care about it. I see what you’re saying, but with all due respect, you have the word “mom” in your blog’s title, and you blog about being a mommy. Because that’s what it’s about, it’s not about parenting in the abstract–gathering tools and tips on parenting–that is true of sites like Parent Hacks, but not most “mommy blogs.”In my mind, the “mommy blog” gets more clout because people want to market to moms. So why not exploit it?

72. @abdpbt thanks for the respectful dissent. I’ve been having a similar conversation offline with another blogger who asked the same questions.I see a difference between mom and mommy – and clearly a lot of commenters here do too. I think that we owe it to each other as a matter of respect to refer to people in a way that makes them comfortable. And if writers time and again are finding limits with the term mommyblog, perhaps we owe it to them to consider if we can’t do better. I would disagree though that I blog about being a mommy. What I do is write about life with the lens of a mother. It’s a distinction I see as important. Sometimes that means yes, I share stories about my children or parenting. But I’m also interested in politics, culture, music, do-gooding, marketing trends, social media, advertising, and yeah, reality tv. (I’m also not sure that Parenthacks is all that abstract. I think what’s cool about it is the personal stories the readers bring to the site. But that’s for < HREF="http://parenthacks.com" REL="nofollow">Asha<> to talk about…)

73. I think everyone has a right to define themselves, but it does not always mean that your audience will agree with your definition. I would consider you a Mommyblogger, but I respect that you see yourself differently.

74. Selena – have to say I love that term you used “lifestyle manager”, reflects more with less words (odd for a lawyer…sorry, I couldn’t resist, I have many, many good lawyer friends). That one is going into my vocabulary.

75. I just read all the comments, and now I forget the question.Mommyblogger. Well, I agree with those who say that originally, it was a cutsie if somewhat belittling term used for mommies who just blogged about poops and being tired all the time. Or maybe blogs that were more personal scrapbooks gone public.Later, I heard the term and thought of it sort of ironically since so many of the “mommybloggers” are not just blogging about mommyhood or mommydom. I despised the term a bit.Now…I don’t know. I guess I’m feeling a bit “take back the night” in that there is real worth in all public writing or journaling beyond our narrow definitions of what is worthwhile writing, just as I’m am straining against the narrow definition of what it means to be a “worthwhile” woman. Mommy Plus is no necessary to be validated in any way. Motherhood is enough and shouldn’t be condescended to. The Internet seems to be one place where motherhood, the act of mothering gets a voice and becomes a science and art through the expression, even the expression of the sometimes mundane. “The excitingness of pure being” and “A rose is a rose is a rose is a rose.” It’s worthwhile because it is.That said, I have no idea how to market to us, or whether there is an us there to market to. We are people who are also raising children, sometimes writing about it. We are a voice. I’m not sure how that translates to cold hard cash.

76. I have never considered myself a “mommyblogger” even though a lot of my content is based on my life and my life revolves around my kids. I just consider it a personal blog. Of course that might get blanks stares at a blogging conference as well.

77. It does feel belittling. I prefer parenting blog, myself.

78. I love this discussion, Liz. Thanks for creating it.The part I struggle with, is that if any effort is made to disassociate with the term “mommy blogger,” it can be interpreted as somehow being embarrassed to identify as a mother at all.For me, and I think for most mothers-who-blog, that’s not the case. We’re not embarrassed to be mothers, but we’d prefer that “mother” not to be our only or our main label.

79. @designmom thank you so so much for making that point so concisely. I’ve been also struggling with that – it’s interested in how the term mommyblogger also brings up so many issues in terms of identity as a person-slash-mother.You are always so smaht.

80. Funny. Bossy is always overlooked as a Mommyblogger because people think of her as a humor/pop culture blogger, which means Bossy gets exactly zero of the perks of Mommyblogging, including participation on panels, and yet she IS a mommy.Controversies abound.

81. I don’t like the term for me personally because in my other life I used to have a byline and front page space and well, moving from my life as a journalist to a “mommy” and “blogger” well, it has taken some effort to swallow the term. I find the term dismissive and unable to capture the broad topics women who blog write about.I think there is an evolution going on…women who started out writing about their new lives as mothers have discovered new skills — writing, web design, consultancy, other businesses — and so the term “mommy blogger” doesn’t fit lots of bloggers who happen to be mothers.Excellent discussion.

82. Hi Mom 101. I agree that this is a very interesting discussion, and I think you hit the nail on the head when you shared the thought that the term mommyblogger describes a person not the content. I’ve never really thought of our blog being a mommyblog. I actually just call it a family blog when I mention it to friends (ususally so they can see the latest picture of our little guy.) Before Danny was born I blogged on our exact same blog we have now, and then as now it was just a collection of thoughts and stories. That’s really the content in my mind. Hmmm?? Stories. We could be Sloggers! Hmm… Sounds tiring don’t you think? But it is better than if we went for Family Bloggers and called ourselves Floggers right? 😉Just my two cents. -Monica

83. i’m a mommy. i have a blog. i am NOT a mommyblogger. i don’t only blog about being a mommy. actually…i blog more about sex. so i guess i’m a sexblogger. and i blog about my husband…who can be a bit, oh what’s the politically correct term i’m looking for…stupid.i think that i should be defined as a sexymomofastupidhusband blogger. there…i redefined myself!

84. If you are down on the term “mommyblogger”, are you down on the term “mommy”?

85. They changed the panel name for you? That my friend is street cred, LOL. Let me go on record that I’d let someone call me wt mommy blogger if they’d fly me to vegas where I could hang out with you. Can you imagine the people watching fun we’d have?co

86. PS The Dead Kids and Dildos blogger is growing on me….

87. I honestly don’t care. It’s just a label, and it’s not very often that we ever like the label someone else gives us. I started blogging before I had children, and would have grouped myself in with the mommybloggers even back then. It’s just who I enjoyed reading.The label itself isn’t the problem. It’s the attitude behind the label. Calling ourselves something different won’t get us more respect. Doing something different will.

88. Honey, you simply are one of the most talented writers I know.

    I think though there’s something to be said about working with brands correctly. If I do get free product and I do feature it on the blog, I always add value to the conversation. For food blog, I cook and test the recipe myself, do a photo shoot and usually record a podcast with the author. It’s a lot of work. And in the end, I think they get the better end of the deal, as the hours that I put into featuring something that I truly believe in is a little crazy.

    Wait. Aren’t we going to be talking about this very topic in a couple of months at BlogHer!?

    LOL. kisses,

    jaden

89. Nick: Age old question. Mommy is a term for my children to call me. It’s cute. It’s a diminutive. And it has nothing to do with what I want to be called by other adults particularly in a professional context. I write about parenting so I’d prefer to be called a parenting blogger. It’s more accurate.

    Jaden – couldn’t agree more. There are a lot of great ways to work with marketers in authentic ways that benefit your readers. You do it beautifully which is why you are going to rock that panel. I’d go even if I weren’t speaking with you!

90. I don't like mommyblogger because it's cutesy. I am in no way cutesy. Yes, I blog about my kids, but I've been blogging before most of them were born. I blog about my marriage and before that I blogged about dating. I write whatever I feel like at any given time, whatever crap I think of. So maybe I'm a crapblogger. Not catchy, but definitely not cutesy.

91. love this post. i don;t think I can be called something as cute as “mommyblogger” when I curse like a sailor. My mouth is not cute. If anythign I'm a “fuckingmommyblogger.” But it's such a great point you make, it's the only moniker that describes the writer, not the content. BRILLIANT. Parenting blogger works, but yeah, I guess it's not that catchy. But still, better than mommy.

92. Right on! I have been saying this for years. Let's deal with content. Advertisers and companies should not look at the blogger but the content and the audience. I have no idea why I have never received one legitimate pitch from a consumer-oriented company, despite having a larger readership of moms than most traditional mom blogs. If Dr. Phil wins a large female audience on TV, advertisers flock to him. They don't say “he is a man.” He appeals to an audience of women more than a real mother who is doing business reporting on MSNBC. If we are really going to see blogging as a business, let's treat it like one.

93. “Mommyblogger” seems to insinuate that whatever your content is, it's not to be taken seriously – like mommies have all this free time to drink lattes and blog about baby spittle all day. Like it's a 'little hobby' that your husband allows you to do to keep you occupied while he's doing something productive…there's a whole cultural stigma in that general direction and I hate it.

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