Man, you bloggers and your inspirational end of the year posts. You certainly set the bar high for a gal.
There’s Neil Kramer and his annual Blogger Christmahanukwanzaakah Concert. The always thoughtful Chris Jordan offers 9 New Year’s Resolutions for a Happier Family at Alphamom. I’m seeing ridiculously comprehensive year in review posts that will make you feel like you spent your entire 2011 frittering away every free second on something stupid.
And I’m sure if you Google around, you’ll also find those perennial link-bating end-of-year favorites like “The Top Celebrity Moms We Love To Hate,” “The 12 Weirdest Celebrity Baby Names of 2011″ and “17 Things That Celebrity Babies Owned in 2011 That You Never Will So Haha Sucker. Now With Giveaway.”
Oh the pressure!
I still recall my memoir instructor telling us that one of the things memoir writing requires is perspective. Without that, I’m not sure I can write the beautiful, resonant, perfectly insightful, mildly witty end-of-2011 post that I would hope to. Maybe in 2013.
Also, our house is a mess and I have like six taped Bravo shows to catch up on and we still haven’t unpacked from our whirlwind 3-city, 4-family Christmas week tour.
However, what I can do is reflect on few things I learned about parenting this year. Because as you all remind me, we never stop learning.
-Overall, the community of parents support each other more than they don’t. Despite what the talk shows and the page view-boosting parenting websites that allow anonymous commenting will have you believe. We have more in common than we don’t.
-Mommy guilt is stupid. You’ll still have it, but that doesn’t mean it’s not stupid.
-Before you take credit for your child’s excellent manners/sleep habits/sociability/ability to speak in full sentences at 18 months, have a second child. Go on. Do it.
-Flip flops are far more appealing to children in the winter. In fact, the colder it is outside, the greater the insistence on wearing them.
-In life, at work, with your blog, with your children: You get what you give.
-You cannot parent based on worst-case scenarios. Or at least I cannot.
-No mother does it all. So we need to stop asking her how she does.
-Damn every annoying cliche person who has ever said, “treasure these years, it goes so fast.” Because it’s totally true.
I’d love to turn it over to you, the mamas (and papas) who always know best and always turn my comment section into something far more interesting than the actual post.
What’s the one best thing you learned about parenting or children in 2011?