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How to throw a mystery party for kids, lazy Type B mom style.

I didn’t think too much of it when Thalia told me she wanted to have a Mystery Party for her birthday. I wasn’t entirely sure how to pull it off, but I knew our guest list in Vermont last week was limited to four friends, two very younger little brothers, and two 10 year-old older brothers. Easy. I thought, I can do this! I’m creative! I have internet! I have recommendations from Twitter! I have Pinterest!

Hoo boy. If you thought Pinterest makes you feel inadequate for not decoupaging your Scotch Tape dispensers or making cupcakes that take 7 weeks and a culinary school degree, try searching for spy party ideas.

Some of the ideas I found were terrific. It really is fun to look for all the things you could do should you have the time, inclination, and supplies.

Also, should you be Mormon.

And so I present two different ways to throw a mystery party for kids. Neither, as it turns out, is wrong.

 

INVITATIONS

Type A Mom:

sleuth party invitationSleuth Party Invitations

Type B Mom:

“Hey everyone, can you just come into the kitchen around 5? Thanks”

 

THE MYSTERY SET UP

Type A Mom:

detective party mission cards

Greet your guests wearing a trenchcoat and detective hat and dark glasses, and hand them special mission cards.

Type B Mom:

detective party clues

“Okay, so we’re going to pick secret agent identities now and I’m going to scribble it on this index card with a Sharpie. You…are Scooter. What? You don’t like Scooter? Stop crying. Fine. Who do you want to be? Great. Rainbow Dash it is. Now stick your finger on this ink pad and make a thumbprint that looks like a big black smudge.”

 

THE ACTIVITIES

Type A Mom:

spy party costumes

18 different activities culminating in a costumed mystery scavenger hunt. The kids arrive in full costume and look amazing.

Type B Mom:

party

1. I Spy – 20 random objects on  a tray, take one away, see who can figure out what’s left.

2. Musical chairs to the Pink Panther theme song. Worked great until Sage cried every time she was out, and the older kids had to take turns giving her their free chairs.

3. Run around the yard and solve a mystery in bare feet. Like uh, detectives must have done back before…shoes.

 

TREATS

Type A Mom:

Handmade chocolate moustaches.

spy party marshmallowsExtra Ammo

spy sweets buffet

Spy sweets buffet

Type B Mom:

chips

Oh yeah.

THE MYSTERY

Type A Mom:

mystery parties

Ready made and beautifully printed, thanks to companies that specialize in such things.

Type B Mom:

spy clues

Congrats on finding the second clue

Now let’s see what you can do

Think real long and look real hard

For clue number 3 in the backyard

Fortunately writing bad rhyming poems is squarely in my skill set. Unfortunately, good handwriting is not and I kept having to run to the next clue location to help them read the cards until they all found the big prize – their own goodie bags.

 

PRIZES

Type A Mom:

detective party favor boxConfidential favor briefcase filled with magnifying glass, fake moustache, candy daggers, marshmallow shooters, and a beautiful handmade detective school certificate

Type B Mom:

binoculars

Binoculars and Muppet Pez.

 

BIRTHDAY CAKE

Type A Mom:

Unbelievable  Sherlock Holmes cake by Gerty Gets Gangster

Type B Mom:

birthday cake

Carvel ice cream cake with a big number 7 candle which thankfully, stayed lit unlike the others.

 

THANK YOU NOTES

Type A Mom:

Take pictures of kids in chalk outlines and affix to each thank you note. (via Forget Laundry)

Type B Mom:

“Thanks for coming guys!”

 

THE VERDICT

The kids had the best time. As it turns out, the party guests did not notice my lack of detective wardrobe, sad design skills, or how well the cake matched the invitation. Mostly they were just happy to run around together, solve a mystery, play musical chairs, eat some cake, then jump around on the trampoline. The parents didn’t notice either; they were too busy finishing off the Sangria.

Also, 7 is awesome.

Turning seven

Thanks Huffington Post for including this in the Best of the Mom + Dad Blogosphere. I’m glad I’m not alone here!

{ 68 comments… add one }

  • Rebecca 7.10.2012, 8:37 am

    Sounds like an awesome party!! :) I’d totally go if I were 7.

  • Hope 7.10.2012, 8:38 am

    That Sherlock Holmes cake is NOT a cake.

    –Type B mom

  • Lauren 7.10.2012, 9:00 am

    Awesome. I’m so completely a type 2 Mom. Our last birthday party featured play-doh. That was it. And everyone — including the adults — had a fantastic time. Type A stuff has great impact, aesthetically, but is it really worth the extra time/money? I don’t think so.

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 11:55 am

      I think it gives some people a lot of pleasure to put together parties, especially when they have great design sense and time. Bless them. I think their results are amazing. I will just never compete.

  • Isabel @alphamom 7.10.2012, 9:21 am

    I love you for so many reasons. One of which is that you didn’t start off all judgy or patronizing: “And so I present two different ways to throw a mystery party for kids. Neither, as it turns out, is wrong.”

    Also, because you chose not to feature this as a slideshow. ;)

  • Fairly Odd Mother 7.10.2012, 9:29 am

    We had a Secret Agent party for my Jilly and I think was a Type AB mom in it. Yes, I had Etsy invites . And stick-on mustaches (which should be at EVERY party, they are just that fun). And name tags that I made with a Sharpie, an ink pad and a bunch of little fingerprints.

    But, we had it at a place that held the entire scavenger hunt/mystery on their grounds, the cake was from a bakery (and looked NOTHING like that book cake).

    Sometime I look at these WAY over the top parties and think, “WHO are they for? The parents or the kids?” Kids need nothing more than some time to play, some cake, and more time to play. Looks like Thalia had the best time! And woo for sangria for the adults!

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 11:57 am

      I wish we had had access to a printer in our rental house (I should have mentioned that) because the mustache ideas are adorable.

      I think sometimes the parties are for the blogs ;)

  • Rebecca 7.10.2012, 9:49 am

    I love this! Thanks for making those of us who can’t find their way around a 2-inch craft punch feel good. And nothing ever beats a Carvel ice cream cake. Nothing! Happy birthday Thalia!

  • sarah 7.10.2012, 9:52 am

    awesome. i’m still reveling in the years when my kid is young enough that birthdays don’t mean much yet (except to the parents, of course)–he’s 2. his 1st and 2nd parties consisted of a bunch of non-fancy food my husband made, a homemade cake (only homemade because i find it fun to bake), and a couple of guests to share it with. activities consisted of singing happy birthday and playing with wrapping paper. when i hear about kids getting super elaborate 1st and 2nd b-days, sure i understand that a lot of that is to help the parents celebrate the milestone, but i just get exhausted thinking about it.

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 11:58 am

      I loved our 1 and 2 year-old parties too. It’s all about one cupcake for the kids, and lots of booze for the grownups. Done!

  • leanne 7.10.2012, 9:57 am

    I’d let you plan my kids’ parties anytime :) (Also, then I wouldn’t have to!)

    Looks like the birthday girl had a fabulous time!

  • magpie 7.10.2012, 10:39 am

    i feel so much better about my lame party planning. danke.

    (one year my kid requested a surprise party. um, the point of a surprise party?)

    • Britiney 7.11.2012, 5:27 pm

      Hilarious! I would have just not done a party and every time he/she asked I’d say something like, “If you knew when it was coming it wouldn’t be a surprise.” The real surprise would be the next birthday when he/she realized the entire year had gone by without a party! Lol. I’m evil like that.

  • Korinthia Klein 7.10.2012, 10:42 am

    How fun! Looks like an excellent party. I’m going to peg myself as type AB positive. (Loose on the activities and overboard on the cake.)

  • Dawn @ thedalaimama 7.10.2012, 10:48 am

    Type B mom–All The Way!!! Love this. I learned this lesson at my son’s last birthday–the kids were happy to run around–tye-dye their own t-shirts, jump on the trampoline and decorate cupcakes (I made from a box mix). I want my kids to have fun and the parties are for the kids, right?

    Excellent party–I may have to use your tutorial for my kids next party.

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 11:59 am

      Ooh, cupcake decorating! Maybe that’s next year’s “theme.” Love it.

  • Elizabeth 7.10.2012, 10:49 am

    This post has completely inspired a Nancy Drew theme for Halloween.

  • Marija 7.10.2012, 11:17 am

    I definitely think that world has gone bananas with type A stuff… we need more of the type B (and C, D, E…)

    I have booked one of the “make and decorate your cupcake” birthday party for my son’s 7th birthday (he likes baking). While it was nice concept, and cupcakes ended up delicious and kids ate them all, kids were just running around and eating gummy worms and black icing getting all hyped up on sugar and running. Cost: $28/kid + cake. Fun factor: 5 (out of 10)

    On other hand, my neighbour went to a party that was scheduled on local parking lot. Organiser brought two mini-goals, dozens of hockey sticks (plenty of those in these latitudes) and field hockey ball. Kids had a blast playing field hockey, ate hotdogs and some cake, drunk loads of fruit juice and were ready for a bath and a bed as soon as they got home. Cost: a gallon of juice, $1 hot dog per kid + cake. Fun factor: 11 (out of 10).

    I vote for type B (even when I’m type A). Enough with the decoupaging Scotch Tape dispensers!

  • Cara 7.10.2012, 11:27 am

    Oh Goodness, I loove this post. Thank you so much. It is *nuts* what events these kid birthday parties are turning out to be — I mean, on the one hand, it seems awesome and fun, and then reality hits, and it just turns to stress-ballz. Love this :)

  • Laura@MotherWouldKnow.com 7.10.2012, 11:53 am

    I’ve been a Type B mom ever since I threw a Type A mom party about 18 years ago, and at the end realized that my daughter (then 5 or 6) would have been just as happy with a Type B mom party and I would have been a lot saner. Now that my daughter is in her mid-20’s, I am hoping that I can pass down that experience as possibly the best advice my mother never thought to give me.

  • Nicole Jade 7.10.2012, 11:55 am

    I have no freaking idea how to throw these “cool” type of parties. In my experience, all you need is a pinata, cupcakes, and water balloons to make a party a hit. Kids don’t care about the fancy spancy tye of crap, that is for the parents. Thanks for the post!

  • Tonya 7.10.2012, 11:55 am

    This post is just the best. All kids really want to do is run around outside and for we parents to just let them be. That Sherlock Holmes cake?? Oh my goodness, what gives??? That’s a crazy cake!

  • Kristi @ PeetSwea 7.10.2012, 11:58 am

    Thank you so much for making me feel better today. I am four days away from my daughter’s 7th birthday party and so far I’ve bought cups. This will definitely NOT be a full-on Pinterest party…

    Looks like the kids had an amazing time.

  • Ashley Austrew 7.10.2012, 12:02 pm

    Love this. When I try to be Type A mom I inevitably screw up whatever I’m working on and start crying about how awful it looks. But then I remember that my kid’s favorite baby toy was an aspirin bottle filled with Cheerios she could shake and I feel better.

  • Selfish Mom 7.10.2012, 12:14 pm

    I have been known to throw Type A parties. Other years I’ve thrown Type B parties. But my favorite type of party is Type C, where you go someplace that does parties and they do it all and then you leave and they clean up.

    Also, I’m totally missing something – I don’t get the Mormon reference.

    • Heather 9.11.2012, 11:39 am

      That’s totally my style…I like to pay Type As to do the work when I can. Unfortunately this year my oldest does not like any of the options I can find for what she wants…I’m gonna have to do it myself, darn it.

  • Jen 7.10.2012, 12:25 pm

    I have done Type B (or C) versions of Type A parties, which means I look through the Oriental Trading catalog and come up with things KIDS think are cool rather ADULTS. If there were a kid pinterest, your party would be on it!

    We did a “King and Queen” party one year. Crepe paper sashes, gold paper crowns (OTrading) with stick on jewels and markers, perhaps some swords? Maybe a deck of cards included in goody bag (king and queen cards, get it?) It was a while ago. They looked cute in a picture and they played regular old birthday games, ate cake and went home (winter birthdays don’t work so well for running around outside).

    Have to agree on the “go somewhere and have them do it” idea too. Costs more, but requires so very little brainpower.

    Or have older 2 children and pay them $20 each to “run the games” for a board/card games party for their little bro. That one worked well too!

  • Sleeping Should Be Easy 7.10.2012, 12:44 pm

    I was a Type A mom for my little guy’s first birthday. Then I became a Type B mom for his second.

    I usually try to aim high and this year is no different. I want a theme! I want color-coordinated balloons! I scour the internet for cute theme goodie bags! But then I realize how much it costs, and how I hardly pay attention to decoration when I go to parties, and end up sticking to the basics.

    Last year the theme was colors, so I just made sure all the table cloths and balloons and plates matched. Yay!

    But like I said, I’m going to try and get more creative now. I’ll probably end up being an in between A-B mom this year.

  • My Kids Mom 7.10.2012, 12:59 pm

    As an eleven year old boy was dropped off at my house, his mom remarked, “He loves coming to your parties.” I laughed. The events for the night, just like last year, were (1) run around the yard. (2) eat dinner (3) run around the yard with flashlights – last year/glow sticks- this year (4) eat cake (5) run around the yard on a sugar high with what hasn’t broken or been lost of the glow/ light implements. (6) sleep or don’t sleep– I won’t care because you will be far away from me in a tent in the backyard.

    I was immensely flattered that he likes our parties. Maybe kids just need more time to run around the yard.

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 1:20 pm

      True dat.

      We once had a parent say her daughter loved coming to our house to play dress up. I asked why and she said, “because you can be so creative…all that stuff you have.” I wracked my brain thinking of the mismatched assorted crap in bins we have and asked her to clarify.

      “Well, what do you have?”

      “Costumes,” she said. “From the store.”

      Who knew bandanas and scarves were more fun!

  • Beth 7.10.2012, 5:17 pm

    Love your blog, even more when I discovered that we both gave birth on 07.06.05 (a cool birthdate). Finn’s event was ‘a soccer party’, e.g here is a soccer ball — have fun!. I’d share pics, if I took some :)…

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 5:33 pm

      Happy birthday to Finn! Also Frida Kahlo. It’s a great day.

  • Clio 7.10.2012, 5:21 pm

    What a great mom you are to pull that off and while on vacation! I have never heard of a mystery party….there’s so much to learn.

    • Mom101 7.10.2012, 5:33 pm

      Don’t even ask me where she got the idea!

  • Kelley 7.10.2012, 11:59 pm

    These are some of the best comments eva!

    Once, while making a fire truck cake for my then 2 year-old’s birthday, I got so frustrated that I chucked it across the kitchen. All of it. Nasty red icing, oreo wheels, makeshift pretzel ladder.

    My other son was 6 months, I was planning a 25th anniversary party out of town for my parents for the same evening as the birthday party, and my in-laws were coming in town, so there was obviously more weighing on my mind than whether or not gummy lifesavers were an appropriate choice for headlights.

    When the firetruck effectively became an airplane, I realized that, like so many of these awesome commenters, I am NOT a type A party planner, or a professional baker, or organized, or hell even good at making lists. Alas.

    We all had a good weekend just the same. And I likely had a hangover, but what can you do.

  • Martha 7.11.2012, 5:12 am

    There is nothing “B” about Cheddar and Sour Cream Ruffles. They help me solve mysteries, too. Like how much Bravo! I can watch in one day. Great post!

  • Rachel 7.11.2012, 7:00 am

    I have spent money on parties outside the house — you know the type with video games and movies and stuff…yet the best parties are the ones with pickup football, mud, and pizza. Period.

    I agree w comment above — the type a parties are for the blog.
    Type b parties are for the memories.

    • Mom101 7.11.2012, 8:02 am

      I’m all for the outside-the-house parties. In NYC we don’t have the space, nor much of a choice. I loved Sage’s birthday party at a bowling alley. But boy, when you have a yard? That seems to be all you need. Or maybe it’s all just so new and novel to me! “Mommy, what’s that green stuff growing out of the ground?”

  • Want to know how birthday parties are done in Belgium? They mostly run along the lines of : ‘good you are here, there is the backyard/playroom and everybody else, have fun playing, cake/pancakes at 4pm.’

  • Melanie 7.11.2012, 1:26 pm

    OMG. “Type B mom.” Can. Not. Stop. Laughing. I always try for Type A but have been known to default to Lazy Mode. LOVED this.

    Melanie

  • Heather M 7.11.2012, 4:47 pm

    Isn’t great that 7 year olds don’t have much access to pinterest to know what slackers the rest of us are. Therefore, they think we are great. A Carvel cake is awesome when you don’t know you COULD have had a super duper Sherlock Holmes cake. Ignorance is bliss!

    PS – I’m in the process of trying to talk my almost 8-year old OUT of a Magic Tree House party. I’m all for celebrating books, but this means I’M going to have to put on the party…instead of going to the skating rink or bowling alley or jumping place. I’d rather NOT be in charge of keeping everyone entertained. It’s just exhausting…not to mention just as expensive. It’s not working….so I’m currently researching how to make a make-shift treehouse (for indoors) out of wood pallets. Someone shoot me now….

    • Mom101 7.11.2012, 5:26 pm

      I would call it a “magic tree house in the Arctic party”

      And take them ice skating.

  • muddledmom 7.11.2012, 4:52 pm

    I see this post as a reason for me to never try Pinterest. I still haven’t! Definitely loved the Type B style best. But those mustache lollipops were darn cute.

    • Mom101 7.11.2012, 5:25 pm

      Pinterest is awesome! I really adore it, and it’s a great resource for so many things. Just don’t uh..judge your design prowess against the pinners. You will lose heinously.

  • MarenM 7.12.2012, 12:54 am

    So. Awesome. I actually live in Vermont, and you could have easily titled this “How to throw a mystery party for kids, Vermont-style”. Most Vermonters don’t know what Pinterst is (not all, just most) and I am a conscientious objector, myself. Most of us here live the Type B Mom thing without a second thought. (Type A’s are good people, too.) Hope you enjoyed your stay!

  • Alyssa S. 7.13.2012, 11:22 am

    I’ve been on vacation and totally out of touch, but as soon as I reconnected with the online world, I came running to see how Thalia’s party went :) It’s taken me six years to learn that as long as there is cake and friends, a birthday party will always be a hit. I LOVE what you did, type B or no. Exactly once, I’ve put my time and energy into a “fancy party” only to learn that no one had any more fun than the time we simply brought cupcakes to school and let everyone sing Happy Birthday.

  • Elaine A. 7.13.2012, 1:48 pm

    I love this post. And all that matters is that the kids have fun. Especially the birthday girl! :D

  • play with your food 8.02.2012, 1:44 pm

    OMG, I LOVED this post! Even though sometimes I’m Type A, and sometimes I’m Type B… Mostly I really appreciated your non judging comparison. Yay, for real moms (both Design Stars and Non Designers too!!!)

  • Heather 9.11.2012, 11:40 am

    I love this! My oldest wants a spy party this year and I am totally gonna swipe some of these elements. I am so glad I found you, I can’t wait to read your other posts! :)

  • HeathBar 6.04.2013, 10:49 am

    I found your blog last night and this post has kept me smiling ever since! It’s PERFECT for me…as I’m throwing a spy party together for my 10 yr old son in just 4 days! I also had to laugh at the “you should be a Mormon” comment…because I happen to be a “Type B” Mormon-Mom….they DO exist! We just don’t blog! :)

  • Stacy 6.07.2013, 2:25 am

    So cute.. It was sweet and simple yet creative!

  • desert green goddess 6.08.2013, 2:22 pm

    Loved this. I think that when we celebrate the Type B approach, we give each other permission to just breathe a little. Relax. Just finished a Type B party for my girls. It didn’t even have a theme or presents or goodie bags. It was basically, “Here’s some food, some sugar, now go play with each other.” They had a great time.

    Oh, and as I read part of this to my husband he says you forgot to add “Type ‘Husband'” to the list of offerings: put on a spy movie. And done.

  • Danielle 7.28.2013, 2:39 pm

    This is awesome! I have even told the boys one friend only. That makes it a birthday party in my book :) I would rather do something with them then spend weeks planning a party!

  • sunshine & daydreams 8.05.2013, 3:52 am

    Thanks for your great advice. I’m not sure which type of Mum
    I am yet. Maybe a Bplus ( fingers crossed) I leave everything to the last min. My 7 year olds detective party is in 4 days and after reading this I’m worried ill be demoted to D type parent!

  • Blissful & Wishful 11.13.2013, 9:32 pm

    Excellent ideas…the B ones that is.

  • Tammy Hiveley 2.27.2014, 8:13 pm

    My 11 year old and I just laughed our way through your post! This was awesome! So beautifully said. We loved it. Thanks for the great suggestions as we are planning my 9 year old’s bday. She’s requesting a mystery. Thanks again! ~Tammy http://wildruffle.com

    • Mom101 3.01.2014, 5:39 pm

      Best of luck…post pictures Tammy. I’m sure they’ll be better than mine!

  • Jenifer 5.14.2014, 2:52 pm

    I laughed hysterically reading your posts! Thanks for the laugh and the mystery ideas! LOVE both parties! :D

    • Mom101 5.14.2014, 6:34 pm

      So glad to help! My kids actually look back on it fondly. For some insane reason.

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  • Steve Coldwell 8.13.2014, 3:32 pm

    Thank you! We’re planning my daughter’s 10th as a mystery party, and this added a nice dose of perspective.

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